I remember when Billy would pull my curly, brown pigtails during math class. I turned around, and with my 11-year-old attitude, told him to stop. I would tell my mom I didn't want to wear pigtails anymore because Billy pulled them. She laughed and said he pulled my hair because he liked me, not because of the pigtails. That was the stupidest thing I'd ever heard. Why would Billy do something mean if he liked me. He should have pushed me on the swings during recess ... I would have liked that.
As the years went on, and the boys became cute and the girls became pretty, I realized that love and attraction was just a big game to many people. Somewhere, I don't know where (I like to think there's an underground tank in California), people created these "rules of love." And if you break them, well, you probably just blew it with the man/woman of your dreams.
These so-called rules and ideas are bullshit. Period.
Even when I was in high school (which wasn't that long ago), girls didn't ask guys to the prom. Girls grew up thinking it's best to wait for the man to ask them to dinner. Well, I don't think that's the way it has to be. In fact, every guy I've been involved with has started because I made the first move. Girls, what's the worst that can happen? He tells you he's not interested ... Oh well. Go home and remind yourself that it's his loss. Living your life in fear of rejection is no way to live! Neither is playing games to try to get him to notice you. Men are interested in football games ... not your games.
Don't get me wrong ... men aren't perfect angels, it's just that they don't over-analyze and scrutinize every little detail when it comes to relationships. This is why if you play games it's not going to get you anywhere. Be direct. Express how you feel and what you want. Be simple about it. If the man can't take it, then he's not for you. And men, when you find a woman who speaks her mind, and you actually agree with what she's saying ... don't let her get away.
One of my favorite groups, The Exciters, knew this in the 1960's when they came out with their first big hit, "Tell Him." They were right when they said they knew something about love. Tell him/her how you feel. Don't play games, don't wait, be that "different" one.
It comes down to this. Whether you're a man or woman, go after what you want. Men, stop pulling her pig tails to get her attention. And, women, stop agonizing over how long you should wait to text him back.
Now ... go and be the one that stands out.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ah-tui1ubnU The Exciters "Tell Him"
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