When it comes to your life ... your decisions and the people in it ... don't settle. You wouldn't settle for cheap conditioner, so why settle for someone or something that's not providing you with all you need.
It was just over a year ago when I realized that my life wasn't moving in the direction I wanted it to. I was living in a great city in Wisconsin with great friends, but I felt stuck. I was in a job I didn't see going anywhere, and a lot of my friends were starting to do that settling down thing. I wasn't ready for that. I wanted more opportunities and to live in a city where independent women were admired. That's how I ended up in New York City.
I realized that if I would have stayed where I was, there was a possibility that my life would be pretty much the same when I turn 35. I wasn't about to let that happen. And, I would have never expected my life to become what it has in the past eight months. I'm so glad I didn't settle for what I was comfortable with. Sometimes you must do things that are scary in order to change your life for the better ... and not end up settling.
So, now you decided to go after that job you've always wanted or be a big brother or big sister. Good. But, please don't tell me that you're settling when it comes to relationships.
Loneliness isn't fun. Because of that, many people feel it's better to be with someone and put up with their bullshit than to be alone. Well, it's not. Why be with someone, or devote time trying to be with someone, who doesn't realize how great you are. This doesn't mean that everyone in your life has to be perfect, because that's not going to happen. Think of it this way. If you go home or to sleep at night angry or sad over someone more than you do feeling happy about them, then there's a problem.
It's time to stop having toasts for the scumbags, and leave them behind (I believe Mr. West would use the term 'runaway'). Have a toast for you ... the good hair day you're having or the new pair of heels that make your legs look great. It's alright to love yourself more than that good looking man who doesn't know what he wants. There are a lot of good looking men out there who actually know what they want. Really ... they exist ... somewhere.
And if you feel like you lost, stop it. You didn't! All you can do is be honest, open and your true self with someone. If you've done all that, you won ... they lost. You won because you decided not to settle with what they were giving you ... because it just wasn't enough. I'm not saying you should keep score, but if you want to, it would be: You - 3 points. Him/Her - 0 points. After all, love is a battlefield.
Just remember these words of wisdom. If you settle for what you're given, then you deserve what you get. That pretty much sums it up.
It was just over a year ago when I realized that my life wasn't moving in the direction I wanted it to. I was living in a great city in Wisconsin with great friends, but I felt stuck. I was in a job I didn't see going anywhere, and a lot of my friends were starting to do that settling down thing. I wasn't ready for that. I wanted more opportunities and to live in a city where independent women were admired. That's how I ended up in New York City.
I realized that if I would have stayed where I was, there was a possibility that my life would be pretty much the same when I turn 35. I wasn't about to let that happen. And, I would have never expected my life to become what it has in the past eight months. I'm so glad I didn't settle for what I was comfortable with. Sometimes you must do things that are scary in order to change your life for the better ... and not end up settling.
So, now you decided to go after that job you've always wanted or be a big brother or big sister. Good. But, please don't tell me that you're settling when it comes to relationships.
Loneliness isn't fun. Because of that, many people feel it's better to be with someone and put up with their bullshit than to be alone. Well, it's not. Why be with someone, or devote time trying to be with someone, who doesn't realize how great you are. This doesn't mean that everyone in your life has to be perfect, because that's not going to happen. Think of it this way. If you go home or to sleep at night angry or sad over someone more than you do feeling happy about them, then there's a problem.
It's time to stop having toasts for the scumbags, and leave them behind (I believe Mr. West would use the term 'runaway'). Have a toast for you ... the good hair day you're having or the new pair of heels that make your legs look great. It's alright to love yourself more than that good looking man who doesn't know what he wants. There are a lot of good looking men out there who actually know what they want. Really ... they exist ... somewhere.
And if you feel like you lost, stop it. You didn't! All you can do is be honest, open and your true self with someone. If you've done all that, you won ... they lost. You won because you decided not to settle with what they were giving you ... because it just wasn't enough. I'm not saying you should keep score, but if you want to, it would be: You - 3 points. Him/Her - 0 points. After all, love is a battlefield.
Just remember these words of wisdom. If you settle for what you're given, then you deserve what you get. That pretty much sums it up.
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